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Thanks...

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Hey.

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I just listened to your voice message.
I can't make the 4 o'clock meeting today.

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Why not?

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I'm leaving at 4:30.

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What for? I mean,
this is important.

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Well, so is picking up
my daughter from daycare.

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Can't somebody else do it?

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No.

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Well, you'll have to figure
something out...

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because you need to be here, okay?

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Didn't you just hear what I
just said? No, it's not okay.

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Look...

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if you're not committed
to this project,

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maybe someone who is...

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should take your place.

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Committed?!?

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She has no idea!

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For the last six months,

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I've been working 10, 12 hours a day!

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My wife's been gone for the last two
weeks to take care of her folks.

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I mean,

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all they talk about here is
family values or work-life balance -

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just words on the wall.

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The real deal here is assignments,
appointments, travel, whatever!

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Family...

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comes last!

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It's not about commitment...
it's about family.

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Listen...

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you need to be at that meeting.

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The balance between
work life and family life

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is all about respect...

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and inclusion.

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And it's important that we're fair in
dealing with this kind of situation.

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We need to treat people with respect

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and let others know
how we want to be treated.

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That's why it's important
to ask ourselves questions like:

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Am I demonstrating appropriate
regard for others?

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Am I being responsive to
indications of disrespectful behavior

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or perceptions that
people feel disrespected?

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Or,

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do I demonstrate awareness

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that respect means different things

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to different people?

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Now, of course,

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there's going to be times
when we say things

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аnd unintentionally offend someone.

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But,

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instead of getting defensive,

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we can look at it

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as an opportunity to learn.

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Hey, you got a minute?

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No, not really.

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I'm trying to find someone to pick up
my daughter from daycare.

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Yeah, that's what
I want to talk about.

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I need to apologize.

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I know we've talked before about your
schedule and family commitments.

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So, now you remember.

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You're not making this
easier on me, you know?

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I'm sorry. I guess I didn't get the

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"make it easy for you" memo.

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That's not what I...

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Listen,

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what I'm trying to say is,

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you and I don't know
each other very well, right?

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You got assigned to this team,
what, a month ago?

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So?

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So, the rest of us are just used to doing
what it takes to get the job done.

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So, what are you saying?

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We're just used
to balancing things...

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somehow.

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I don't know what to tell ya.
I have to be out of here by 4:30

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to make the daycare by 6.
My kid is waiting for me.

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Maybe we could talk
about this as a team.

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You know, the best way to deal
with these emergency meetings.

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Okay...

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I don't know, I guess we're just in
the habit of the late afternoon meetings.

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The truth was, talking this through...

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kind of woke me up a little.

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I was in the habit of
a lot of things... like...

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not respecting other's priorities
when they didn't line up with mine.

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I wanna be clear, you're
an important part of this team.

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So, can we think of some
alternatives for a minute?

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Like what?

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Well... when we run into this kind of
thing, maybe we could do early mornings?

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Or we could conference you in?

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I think if we talked with the team,

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we could find something
that will work for everyone.

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It's worth talking about, I guess.

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In the meantime,

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can we discuss this
meeting... this afternoon?

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If I can get your input now, I could
call your cell if we have questions?

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Would that work for you?

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Sounds good. My initial idea is too...