WEBVTT 00:00:04.769 --> 00:00:07.586 Look, listen. I’ve got this guy we work with... 00:00:07.598 --> 00:00:10.427 he gives me a price, then I Jew him down on it, 00:00:11.279 --> 00:00:14.342 Yeah, no problem, I'll give him a call. 00:00:14.442 --> 00:00:19.640 Trust me his product... amazing. 00:00:20.180 --> 00:00:24.193 Oh yeah, I’ll just... uh... talk to my co-worker and I'll get back to ya. 00:00:24.201 --> 00:00:27.122 All right bud. Yeah, talk to you later. 00:00:27.125 --> 00:00:29.017 Hey David? Yeah? 00:00:29.109 --> 00:00:33.140 I just got off with The Hayes account... And they were telling me their 00:00:33.141 --> 00:00:37.529 vendor couldn't get the materials. So I was thinking about going with the guy across town. 00:00:37.704 --> 00:00:41.581 Reese? Yeah, yeah, he's got good stuff. 00:00:41.647 --> 00:00:44.839 He's a little pricey though, but um, he delivers on time. 00:00:44.840 --> 00:00:46.874 Trust me. He’ll talk to me. 00:00:47.321 --> 00:00:49.633 Yeah, I think I'll give him a call right now and 00:00:49.645 --> 00:00:52.014 see if I can Jew him down on the price a bit. 00:00:52.300 --> 00:00:53.300 You’re gonna what? 00:00:53.512 --> 00:00:58.180 I’m... give him a call, we’ll negotiate, and... I’ll... Jew him down on the price. 00:00:58.182 --> 00:01:02.679 Yeah, Rich. I'm Jewish. Aren't you Catholic? 00:01:02.680 --> 00:01:05.008 Why don't you give him a call and Catholic him down a bit? 00:01:05.010 --> 00:01:08.210 Hey, hey, it’s just an expression all right? 00:01:10.477 --> 00:01:14.624 Look, if it happened just once, it probably wouldn't bother me. 00:01:14.709 --> 00:01:17.806 I mean, it's not the first time I've ever heard that. 00:01:17.926 --> 00:01:21.359 But it's one thing coming from a stranger on the street and... 00:01:21.359 --> 00:01:24.167 another thing coming from a guy you work with every day. 00:01:24.380 --> 00:01:27.192 Yeah, well, I don’t like that expression... 00:01:27.204 --> 00:01:28.710 Forget about it, okay? 00:01:28.756 --> 00:01:31.757 Rich, I'd like you to stop using it. It’s insulting. 00:01:32.628 --> 00:01:37.008 You know last time I checked it's a free country and I can say whatever I want. 00:01:44.825 --> 00:01:49.773 We’ve probably all heard expressions like these and sometimes they may seem harmless. 00:01:49.774 --> 00:01:52.918 But the truth is their effects can be very destructive. 00:01:52.920 --> 00:01:56.332 That's why we have to stay focused on dealing with the situation 00:01:56.369 --> 00:01:59.121 and at the same time, maintain the relationship. 00:01:59.263 --> 00:02:01.700 One thing I do, in situations like this, 00:02:01.701 --> 00:02:04.777 is help a co-worker understand what’s important to me 00:02:04.895 --> 00:02:09.477 and work with them to find a solution. Sure, it may take a special effort, 00:02:09.480 --> 00:02:16.088 but when it resolves the problem and everyone ends up getting along better it’s worth it. 00:02:16.884 --> 00:02:20.076 So look, I’ve got this guy we work with. 00:02:20.088 --> 00:02:23.150 He gives me a price and I Jew him down on it. 00:02:23.685 --> 00:02:30.850 Oh yeah, yeah, I'll give him a call. Trust me his product... good. 00:02:31.547 --> 00:02:36.448 Oh yeah, I’ll talk to my co-worker and get back to ya. All right. 00:02:37.917 --> 00:02:40.644 Hey, Rich, hang on a minute. What? 00:02:40.744 --> 00:02:44.413 I don't know if you realize this, but that's very offensive. 00:02:44.639 --> 00:02:48.003 Uh, what is? Jew him down. 00:02:49.414 --> 00:02:52.969 Yeah, it's just an expression. I know. I used to say it, too. 00:02:53.069 --> 00:02:54.836 Well then, what's the problem? 00:02:54.837 --> 00:03:00.210 Well, I had a good friend that I offended and I didn't even realize. 00:03:00.292 --> 00:03:02.292 Thanks, Meredith. 00:03:02.370 --> 00:03:07.570 Come on guys, do we have to be so politically correct all the time? 00:03:07.872 --> 00:03:11.965 I mean, I've heard you both use the term Mexican standoff 00:03:11.987 --> 00:03:17.546 and I don't get all bent out of shape about it and I'm part Hispanic. 00:03:17.785 --> 00:03:21.992 Oh, next thing you know you'll be coming down on me for saying words, 00:03:21.992 --> 00:03:24.514 blackmail or whitewash. 00:03:24.562 --> 00:03:26.905 Rich, do you even know where the expression comes from? 00:03:26.917 --> 00:03:29.167 It is a stereotype against us, 00:03:29.217 --> 00:03:32.348 being ruthless about money, it goes back centuries and 00:03:32.360 --> 00:03:35.217 Jews were persecuted for years in Europe over it. 00:03:35.250 --> 00:03:38.736 And it doesn’t even make sense. Are you trying to say that 00:03:38.737 --> 00:03:42.024 anyone who’s trying to cut a good deal is Jewish? 00:03:42.182 --> 00:03:46.684 I’m not saying anything. It’s just an expression. 00:03:46.759 --> 00:03:49.997 Come on guys. Do we really have to do this? 00:03:50.089 --> 00:03:54.225 Do we have to have some long, drawn-out discussion over something like this? Really? 00:03:54.762 --> 00:03:58.348 Yeah, I was ticked off. It's ridiculous. 00:03:58.357 --> 00:04:04.145 It's like you can't say anything anymore without the PC Police crawling all over you. 00:04:04.569 --> 00:04:07.760 I know, I know you think it’s just a harmless expression 00:04:07.760 --> 00:04:09.655 and I know you didn't mean anything by it. 00:04:09.655 --> 00:04:14.065 But that’s exactly the kind of statement that perpetuates prejudice. 00:04:15.142 --> 00:04:20.538 Okay. Okay. I get it. What if I say “chew” him down? 00:04:22.743 --> 00:04:25.116 You know, Rich, I’m sure we can come up with 00:04:25.117 --> 00:04:29.837 another expression to describe negotiating without insulting an entire culture. 00:04:30.257 --> 00:04:34.923 It really bothered you? Yeah, it did. 00:04:35.186 --> 00:04:39.758 All right, all right. I’m in the wrong. I'm sorry. 00:04:39.770 --> 00:04:42.062 Thanks, I appreciate it. 00:04:42.151 --> 00:04:44.532 You know, we've all done things like this before 00:04:44.532 --> 00:04:48.630 and the important thing is to try to see each other’s point of view and work it out. 00:04:48.705 --> 00:04:51.246 And it starts by telling each other when we hear 00:04:51.258 --> 00:04:53.759 something that doesn't sit quite right with us. 00:04:54.031 --> 00:04:56.462 Alright, I know I was kind of being a jerk. 00:04:56.463 --> 00:05:01.310 Sorry if I offended you and got your panties all up in a bunch. And listen... 00:05:01.355 --> 00:05:04.747 I want you both to feel like you can come talk to me 00:05:04.759 --> 00:05:08.098 if I say or do something that bothers you, alright? 00:05:08.098 --> 00:05:13.877 Well Rich, I don’t want to start so early, but “panties in a bunch,” really? 00:05:13.990 --> 00:05:16.259 What’s wrong with that?