WEBVTT 00:00:07.671 --> 00:00:10.728 Look, I've got this guy I play this game with. 00:00:11.014 --> 00:00:14.814 He offers me a price, then I Jew him down a bit, then we come to an agreement. 00:00:15.928 --> 00:00:17.700 Yeah, yeah, I'll give him a call. 00:00:18.414 --> 00:00:21.642 Quality? No everything I've heard, his product is good. 00:00:22.600 --> 00:00:26.185 Yes, I will call you back, okay? All right. 00:00:27.556 --> 00:00:29.156 Hey Dave! Yeah? 00:00:29.157 --> 00:00:31.814 The Hayes account... Tom's vendor can't get the materials. 00:00:31.815 --> 00:00:35.091 I was thinking of calling that guy across town - Reese? 00:00:35.099 --> 00:00:37.641 Reese? Oh, yeah, yeah, he's got good stuff. 00:00:37.671 --> 00:00:40.530 He's a little expensive though, but um, he delivers on time. 00:00:40.532 --> 00:00:43.349 That's what I wanted to hear. You know, I think I'll give him a call 00:00:43.350 --> 00:00:45.814 and try to Jew him down on the price a bit. 00:00:46.528 --> 00:00:47.814 What'd you just say? 00:00:48.669 --> 00:00:51.927 I said I'd call him up, negotiate with him and try to Jew him down on the price. 00:00:51.928 --> 00:00:54.500 Yeah, yeah, Rich. You know... I'm Jewish. 00:00:55.220 --> 00:00:58.842 Aren't you Catholic? Why don't you try to Catholic him down a bit? 00:00:59.500 --> 00:01:01.890 Hey man, lighten up. It's just an expression. 00:01:01.891 --> 00:01:05.160 Look, if it happened just once, it probably wouldn't bother me. 00:01:05.160 --> 00:01:07.528 It's not the first time I've ever heard that. 00:01:07.529 --> 00:01:10.072 But it's one thing when it's coming from a stranger on the street 00:01:10.413 --> 00:01:13.109 and another when it's coming from a guy you work with everyday. 00:01:13.110 --> 00:01:15.871 Yeah, well, it's an expression I'd like you to stop using. 00:01:16.620 --> 00:01:17.614 Forget it, all right? 00:01:18.339 --> 00:01:22.009 Rich, as your coworker, I'd like you to stop using it. 00:01:22.010 --> 00:01:23.819 It's an insulting expression. 00:01:23.820 --> 00:01:27.271 Listen, it's a free country and I'll say whatever I want. 00:01:39.559 --> 00:01:43.569 When we have to let a co-worker – maybe someone we've worked with for years 00:01:43.570 --> 00:01:47.928 know that he or she has said something that's causing a lot of friction 00:01:48.185 --> 00:01:51.985 it can be a real challenge because it's easy to fall into sarcasm. 00:01:52.460 --> 00:01:54.119 That's why we have to stay focused 00:01:54.120 --> 00:01:57.385 on finding a way to maintain respect in the workplace. 00:01:57.642 --> 00:02:00.585 One of the things I try to do in a situation like that 00:02:00.841 --> 00:02:05.384 is to take the time to help a co-worker understand why we need to change 00:02:05.385 --> 00:02:07.700 or look at something in a different way. 00:02:08.156 --> 00:02:10.584 Sure, it might take a few extra minutes, 00:02:10.585 --> 00:02:14.814 but if everybody ends up getting along better - it makes it all worth it. 00:02:14.842 --> 00:02:17.100 Look, I've got this guy I play this game with. 00:02:17.557 --> 00:02:21.328 He offers me a price, then I Jew him down a bit, then we come to an agreement. 00:02:22.528 --> 00:02:24.100 Yeah, yeah, I'll give him a call. 00:02:25.071 --> 00:02:28.214 Quality? No everything I've heard, his product is good. 00:02:29.071 --> 00:02:31.185 Yes, I will call you back, okay? 00:02:32.957 --> 00:02:34.442 Rich, hang on a minute. 00:02:34.957 --> 00:02:35.642 What? 00:02:36.013 --> 00:02:39.756 Well, I'm sure you don't realize this, but that's a highly offensive term. 00:02:39.757 --> 00:02:40.700 What is? 00:02:40.701 --> 00:02:42.043 Jew him down. 00:02:42.441 --> 00:02:44.041 It's just an expression, all right? 00:02:44.042 --> 00:02:46.538 I know. I used to say it, too. 00:02:46.539 --> 00:02:47.609 What's the problem? 00:02:47.610 --> 00:02:50.459 Well, the problem is I hurt somebody very close to me 00:02:50.460 --> 00:02:53.219 and I nearly destroyed a yearlong friendship because of it. 00:02:53.471 --> 00:02:55.414 Meredith, thanks. 00:02:55.970 --> 00:02:59.614 Come on guys, do we have to be so politically correct all the time? 00:03:00.120 --> 00:03:02.369 I mean, I've heard you use the term Mexican standoff 00:03:02.370 --> 00:03:04.900 and I don't get all bent out of shape and I'm part Hispanic. 00:03:05.213 --> 00:03:07.279 I mean the next thing you know you're going to be giving me grief 00:03:07.280 --> 00:03:09.471 because I said blackmail or whitewash. 00:03:09.900 --> 00:03:12.842 Look, do you realize where this expression comes from? 00:03:13.539 --> 00:03:16.756 It's because people for years accused the Jews of money mongering 00:03:16.757 --> 00:03:19.442 and they've suffered a lot because of it. 00:03:19.443 --> 00:03:22.072 Actually, the truth is we're quite a charitable culture. 00:03:22.749 --> 00:03:24.213 Come on guys! 00:03:24.243 --> 00:03:27.186 Yeah, I was ticked off. It was ridiculous. 00:03:27.849 --> 00:03:29.413 It's like you can't say anything anymore 00:03:29.414 --> 00:03:31.880 without the PC Police crawling all over you. 00:03:31.890 --> 00:03:34.209 I know, I know you think it's a harmless expression 00:03:34.210 --> 00:03:36.414 and I'm sure you don't mean any harm by it. 00:03:36.960 --> 00:03:41.157 But that's the kind of statement that just perpetuates prejudice. 00:03:41.850 --> 00:03:43.957 What if I said chew him down? 00:03:45.491 --> 00:03:49.229 Rich, I'm sure we can find a term to describe negotiating 00:03:49.230 --> 00:03:51.214 without insulting an entire culture. 00:03:51.820 --> 00:03:53.471 It really bothered you that much? 00:03:54.414 --> 00:03:56.014 Actually, it does. 00:03:57.357 --> 00:04:00.128 All right, all right, all right. I was wrong. I'm sorry. 00:04:00.927 --> 00:04:01.756 No problem. 00:04:01.757 --> 00:04:06.190 Listen, we've all done things like this before and the important thing is 00:04:06.199 --> 00:04:08.538 that we're willing to learn and to change. 00:04:08.539 --> 00:04:11.868 And it starts by telling each other when we hear something 00:04:11.869 --> 00:04:13.600 that doesn't quite sit right. 00:04:15.160 --> 00:04:19.300 Well, I suppose this was a good thing – even though I felt really uncomfortable. 00:04:20.214 --> 00:04:24.420 And look guys, I want you to keep helping me out. Okay? 00:04:24.429 --> 00:04:25.327 Sounds good to me. 00:04:25.328 --> 00:04:29.528 Well, I hate to start so soon, Rich... but, I'm not a guy.