WEBVTT 00:00:39.981 --> 00:00:42.234 Good morning. You must be Trevor. 00:00:42.478 --> 00:00:43.538 I’m Alex. 00:00:43.631 --> 00:00:45.562 I’m so excited for our first mentoring session. 00:00:45.580 --> 00:00:46.676 You’re Alex? 00:00:46.686 --> 00:00:50.464 Here… I get that a lot. Alex is short for Alexandria. 00:00:50.485 --> 00:00:52.110 Oh? Ah, well 00:00:52.120 --> 00:00:55.130 I’ll be in there in just a second. I need to talk to Dave about something. 00:00:55.225 --> 00:00:56.579 Okay. I’ll be waiting. 00:00:57.156 --> 00:00:58.503 Dave! Dave! 00:00:58.566 --> 00:00:59.581 Hey. What’s up? 00:00:59.612 --> 00:01:00.623 I’ve got a problem. 00:01:00.763 --> 00:01:01.955 It’s not something at home, is it? 00:01:01.976 --> 00:01:05.242 No I’ve got a session today with Alex and 00:01:05.960 --> 00:01:07.513 Alex is a woman! 00:01:09.137 --> 00:01:10.357 Oooookay? 00:01:10.513 --> 00:01:14.857 Come on aren’t you afraid of being with a woman… alone? 00:01:16.064 --> 00:01:16.559 What are you talking about? 00:01:16.590 --> 00:01:20.027 Come on every time you turn around there is another sexual harassment case. 00:01:20.152 --> 00:01:22.730 I mean someone’s going down like every week! 00:01:23.840 --> 00:01:25.241 What are you talking about? 00:01:25.314 --> 00:01:27.149 Her Alex 00:01:27.356 --> 00:01:30.012 She could accuse me of sexual harassment! 00:01:30.134 --> 00:01:31.618 What? Ah ah 00:01:32.149 --> 00:01:32.862 Ah 00:01:32.908 --> 00:01:34.147 What are you talking about 00:01:34.209 --> 00:01:37.459 Oh man, I can see it this is not happening. 00:01:39.344 --> 00:01:40.924 Is there something I don’t know about? 00:01:41.022 --> 00:01:42.022 Look 00:01:42.152 --> 00:01:46.008 I don’t want to have a one-on-one meeting with a woman and risk it. 00:01:48.147 --> 00:01:49.147 Wait 00:01:49.418 --> 00:01:50.446 Ok 00:01:51.643 --> 00:01:52.643 You’ve got me 00:01:52.903 --> 00:01:53.914 this is a joke, right? 00:01:53.945 --> 00:01:54.987 No 00:01:55.610 --> 00:01:57.007 I don’t know what to do? 00:01:57.070 --> 00:01:58.348 I can’t work with her. 00:01:58.622 --> 00:01:59.133 Wow? 00:01:59.200 --> 00:02:03.241 I didn’t see this coming. Sexual harassment? What? 00:02:03.773 --> 00:02:07.394 He was so worried about being alone with Alex, 00:02:07.616 --> 00:02:11.549 he wasn’t thinking about how he could positively impact her with all of the 00:02:11.601 --> 00:02:13.933 skills and experience he brings 00:02:14.289 --> 00:02:17.840 Let alone, bring out all of her talent and creativity. 00:02:18.152 --> 00:02:19.621 Do you hear yourself? 00:02:20.203 --> 00:02:22.579 Are you saying you don’t want Alex to be mentored? 00:02:23.537 --> 00:02:27.450 Isn’t that why we have this program to to help our emerging leaders excel? 00:02:27.509 --> 00:02:29.137 No of course not 00:02:29.405 --> 00:02:30.929 Not when you put it like that. 00:02:31.600 --> 00:02:32.600 Look! 00:02:32.642 --> 00:02:34.187 I’ve known you for years. 00:02:34.500 --> 00:02:37.458 How many times have you been accused of sexual harassment? 00:02:37.625 --> 00:02:38.645 None. 00:02:39.123 --> 00:02:40.979 Have you harassed women in the past? 00:02:40.989 --> 00:02:41.989 No! 00:02:42.196 --> 00:02:43.885 I would never do that. 00:02:44.134 --> 00:02:46.250 Do you plan on doing it in the future? 00:02:46.602 --> 00:02:48.229 Dave… where are you going with this? 00:02:48.302 --> 00:02:49.427 My point is 00:02:49.437 --> 00:02:50.854 Nothing has changed. 00:02:50.895 --> 00:02:53.396 You’re still the guy I know 00:02:53.560 --> 00:02:55.893 that is very well respected around here. 00:02:56.075 --> 00:02:57.075 Yeah but, 00:02:57.158 --> 00:02:59.424 what if I accidentally say something that I shouldn’t? 00:02:59.585 --> 00:03:02.189 I mean all it takes is one time! And they’ve got you. 00:03:02.227 --> 00:03:04.752 It has changed. Things are different now! 00:03:07.166 --> 00:03:10.187 You once told me to get as much information as possible 00:03:10.239 --> 00:03:11.832 before making a decision. 00:03:12.987 --> 00:03:14.312 So here it is 00:03:14.873 --> 00:03:20.261 Statistics show there are very few false harassment cases. 00:03:20.915 --> 00:03:23.778 In fact, from what I’ve read and seen 00:03:24.235 --> 00:03:26.767 sexual harassment is way under reported. 00:03:27.016 --> 00:03:28.330 Yea but… they could just… 00:03:28.394 --> 00:03:32.780 Trevor. Those who are targeted usually avoid reporting it, 00:03:32.822 --> 00:03:35.033 because they’re afraid they of not being believed, or or 00:03:35.052 --> 00:03:36.668 losing their job or or 00:03:36.740 --> 00:03:40.019 their harasser will take some sort of revenge on them. 00:03:40.183 --> 00:03:43.215 Seems to me that all this changed these days is that 00:03:43.360 --> 00:03:44.935 women get more support than they used to 00:03:44.956 --> 00:03:47.256 when they come forward and report these things. 00:03:47.311 --> 00:03:49.822 I know and that’s a good thing it is. But 00:03:50.558 --> 00:03:52.247 I’m still nervous 00:03:53.839 --> 00:03:56.857 maybe I’m just overthinking things. 00:03:58.143 --> 00:03:59.620 My advice. 00:04:00.310 --> 00:04:01.515 Just be yourself. 00:04:02.691 --> 00:04:04.925 Focus on the information and and 00:04:04.987 --> 00:04:06.810 getting the most out of the session - 00:04:07.711 --> 00:04:10.898 guide, lead, direct and 00:04:11.221 --> 00:04:12.221 help 00:04:12.344 --> 00:04:14.122 just like you always have. 00:04:14.132 --> 00:04:16.643 But how am I gonna be able to You’re the best 00:04:16.779 --> 00:04:18.633 at helping people grow. 00:04:19.007 --> 00:04:21.320 And I KNOW you want Alex to succeed. 00:04:21.526 --> 00:04:24.135 But I know conversations aren’t always about business 00:04:24.234 --> 00:04:26.849 There’s gonna be small talk and that’s what I’m nervous about. 00:04:27.317 --> 00:04:29.005 I get that. But 00:04:29.576 --> 00:04:32.172 doesn’t it always come down to a simple word 00:04:32.390 --> 00:04:33.432 respect? 00:04:33.567 --> 00:04:34.588 Yes. 00:04:34.627 --> 00:04:36.494 But life isn’t always that simple. 00:04:37.889 --> 00:04:38.700 I know. 00:04:38.774 --> 00:04:41.906 And I’ve caught myself starting to say something that 00:04:42.001 --> 00:04:44.001 someone might take the wrong way. 00:04:44.469 --> 00:04:48.032 So I live by the rule of ‘if I’m unsure, 00:04:48.334 --> 00:04:49.507 I don’t say it.’ 00:04:49.631 --> 00:04:51.199 You make it sound pretty simple. 00:04:51.572 --> 00:04:52.572 It is. 00:04:53.439 --> 00:04:57.022 I think in this case, you this made this issue about YOU. 00:04:57.387 --> 00:04:59.032 Nothing has changed. Just 00:04:59.362 --> 00:05:04.383 your reaction to it and honestly, some unfounded fears. 00:05:05.351 --> 00:05:06.360 Hmmm 00:05:06.852 --> 00:05:07.881 You’re right. 00:05:08.078 --> 00:05:10.333 I guess with all the stuff I’ve seen in the media, 00:05:10.436 --> 00:05:12.500 I’ve made more out of this than I should have. 00:05:12.930 --> 00:05:14.093 You’ll be fine. 00:05:14.426 --> 00:05:15.517 Thanks 00:05:15.795 --> 00:05:17.527 for talking me off the ledge. 00:05:17.880 --> 00:05:19.176 Anytime.