WEBVTT 00:00:39.260 --> 00:00:43.026 When we run into inappropriate and unprofessional behavior in the workplace, 00:00:43.051 --> 00:00:45.275 whether we are the target or a bystander, 00:00:45.472 --> 00:00:47.831 it can be tempting to just ignore it, do nothing... 00:00:47.856 --> 00:00:49.891 and just hope it will go away. 00:00:50.192 --> 00:00:55.028 But the truth is, we can take responsibility to do one of two things: 00:00:55.434 --> 00:00:58.152 If we feel safe and comfortable with the situation, 00:00:58.349 --> 00:01:00.964 we can work to resolve the issue ourselves. 00:01:01.315 --> 00:01:02.199 If not... 00:01:02.224 --> 00:01:05.949 we need to let someone in authority know what's going on and get help. 00:01:07.080 --> 00:01:09.280 Getting that help is pretty straightforward. 00:01:09.305 --> 00:01:12.261 But stepping in and resolving a situation, 00:01:12.286 --> 00:01:15.175 even when you do feel safe with the people involved, 00:01:15.346 --> 00:01:16.866 can be a challenge. 00:01:17.596 --> 00:01:20.563 The best way I know of to resolve those kinds of issues, 00:01:20.588 --> 00:01:23.428 maintain respect, and stay productive 00:01:23.453 --> 00:01:26.160 is to use an easy to follow tool. 00:01:26.185 --> 00:01:27.439 It's called, MEET. 00:01:27.718 --> 00:01:29.763 Make time to discuss. 00:01:30.175 --> 00:01:31.813 Explore differences. 00:01:32.122 --> 00:01:33.661 Encourage respect. 00:01:34.089 --> 00:01:36.058 Take responsibility. 00:01:36.540 --> 00:01:38.542 No matter how much we've got going on, 00:01:38.567 --> 00:01:41.305 we need to make time to discuss the situation. 00:01:41.855 --> 00:01:44.031 We should explore differences and make sure 00:01:44.056 --> 00:01:46.326 everyone has an opportunity to be heard. 00:01:46.858 --> 00:01:48.903 We need to ensure people are communicating 00:01:48.928 --> 00:01:50.905 in a way that encourages respect. 00:01:51.312 --> 00:01:54.362 And we have to take personal responsibility to make sure 00:01:54.387 --> 00:01:56.305 things are handled the right way. 00:01:56.893 --> 00:01:58.495 The great thing about M.E.E.T. 00:01:58.520 --> 00:02:01.882 is that it gives us a way to step in and help keep a situation 00:02:01.907 --> 00:02:05.094 from getting out of hand and really crossing the line. 00:02:12.796 --> 00:02:16.010 Hey, there, newbie... glad to see you could drag yourself in. 00:02:16.077 --> 00:02:18.298 Oooh! Hey… so, what's for lunch? 00:02:18.365 --> 00:02:19.537 Come on, give it... 00:02:19.625 --> 00:02:22.137 Ooooo, look at these... Did your mommy peel these for you? 00:02:22.158 --> 00:02:22.961 No. 00:02:22.972 --> 00:02:24.402 - So… it's true, then? - What? 00:02:24.438 --> 00:02:26.826 - You still live with your mama. - I don’t. 00:02:26.838 --> 00:02:29.025 She probably still lays out his clothes at night. 00:02:29.036 --> 00:02:30.632 [The group is laughing] 00:02:30.643 --> 00:02:31.893 It started my first day. 00:02:32.060 --> 00:02:35.151 And, you know, I expected that sort of thing for a while. 00:02:35.473 --> 00:02:38.855 But it’s been non stop for two months. 00:02:39.056 --> 00:02:42.750 And it’s getting old... really, really old. 00:02:42.838 --> 00:02:44.456 It wasn’t personal or anything. 00:02:44.467 --> 00:02:46.900 It was a test, sort of, to see if you could cut it. 00:02:47.108 --> 00:02:48.679 Sort of like boot camp. 00:02:48.690 --> 00:02:51.856 If you washed out, you probably shouldn't have been here in the first place. 00:02:55.235 --> 00:02:56.487 Whatcha doing? 00:02:56.498 --> 00:02:58.909 Just thought I'd give the newbie a little helping hand today. 00:02:58.920 --> 00:03:01.119 A little hand cleanser… and we’re good to go. 00:03:01.130 --> 00:03:05.511 Hey, remember when we “enhanced” Vic's shoes with the grape jelly? 00:03:05.526 --> 00:03:08.048 Oh, how about when we used that honey in his goggles? 00:03:08.617 --> 00:03:09.801 What about goggles? 00:03:09.812 --> 00:03:11.620 - What's what? - The goggles? 00:03:11.631 --> 00:03:14.544 Before your time, new guy. Before your time. 00:03:14.723 --> 00:03:18.071 So... how many pallets you get to unload today? 00:03:18.082 --> 00:03:20.896 I saw... maybe six... 00:03:21.912 --> 00:03:23.787 What did you guys do? 00:03:24.088 --> 00:03:25.294 What are you talking about? 00:03:25.305 --> 00:03:28.825 I've had it with this crap. It ends now. Got it? 00:03:28.930 --> 00:03:32.066 Oh, come on, newbie. It’s just good clean fun, that's all. 00:03:32.160 --> 00:03:34.371 Yeah, well, maybe we ought to see what my lawyer says about that. 00:03:34.512 --> 00:03:37.285 You don't want to go there, son. Trust me. 00:03:37.296 --> 00:03:39.002 Whoa, whoa, hold on now. Hold on now. 00:03:39.013 --> 00:03:40.508 Let’s not get carried away. 00:03:40.731 --> 00:03:43.824 Can we take a minute and talk about this? 00:03:44.894 --> 00:03:45.918 It's a little late for that. 00:03:45.929 --> 00:03:48.504 No, seriously. This is taking a bad turn. 00:03:48.515 --> 00:03:49.802 Okay? We need to talk. 00:03:50.653 --> 00:03:51.746 Okay? 00:03:53.051 --> 00:03:53.973 Guys? 00:03:54.184 --> 00:03:55.914 Yeah. Ok. Whatever. 00:03:56.414 --> 00:03:57.414 Greg? 00:03:58.399 --> 00:03:59.984 I'm listening. 00:04:00.164 --> 00:04:01.836 Look, I was glad when Aaron showed up. 00:04:01.847 --> 00:04:06.140 I'd been the new kid on the block and having him took a lot of the pressure off, 00:04:06.620 --> 00:04:08.707 But what we were putting him through... 00:04:09.196 --> 00:04:11.242 You know, I've been there before and... 00:04:11.872 --> 00:04:14.358 it felt like crap and I almost wanted to quit. 00:04:14.656 --> 00:04:17.113 So… I guess I just got to the point where I was like... 00:04:18.408 --> 00:04:20.082 enough is enough, you know? 00:04:20.760 --> 00:04:24.266 Look, I know we come from the acceptance through ridicule school, 00:04:24.277 --> 00:04:26.668 so maybe we're a little rough around the edges. 00:04:27.105 --> 00:04:30.152 Yeah, it's when we stop giving you crap that you should be worried. 00:04:30.340 --> 00:04:32.597 Besides, we've all been through it. 00:04:32.681 --> 00:04:33.761 It’s nothing personal. 00:04:33.772 --> 00:04:36.324 It's like John said it's part of working here. 00:04:36.394 --> 00:04:37.878 A couple days is one thing. 00:04:37.935 --> 00:04:39.925 But this has been going on for two months. 00:04:40.433 --> 00:04:43.308 What John was trying to do, stepping in like that... 00:04:44.328 --> 00:04:46.027 that was probably a good thing. 00:04:46.841 --> 00:04:48.599 And I have to hand it to Aaron. 00:04:49.045 --> 00:04:50.755 He just laid it all out there. 00:04:50.766 --> 00:04:52.249 And that took some guts. 00:04:52.500 --> 00:04:54.883 I know respect has to be earned. 00:04:55.340 --> 00:04:57.578 But how are you supposed to do a good job 00:04:57.589 --> 00:05:01.380 when everyone I work with treats me like some sort of joke? 00:05:01.536 --> 00:05:02.481 You're right. 00:05:02.926 --> 00:05:05.183 - Excuse me? - I know you guys are just kidding around. 00:05:05.194 --> 00:05:07.012 But he's right. 00:05:07.023 --> 00:05:07.918 What? 00:05:07.929 --> 00:05:10.739 This isn't the same place it was when you started. 00:05:10.750 --> 00:05:13.043 You know... You went through it, I went through it... 00:05:13.054 --> 00:05:14.848 But that's because we didn't know any better. 00:05:14.859 --> 00:05:15.676 So? 00:05:15.687 --> 00:05:17.503 So, now we do, you know. 00:05:17.785 --> 00:05:21.464 I know we think we're all just having fun, but I've got to tell you... 00:05:22.261 --> 00:05:26.449 If my kid came home and told me he was being treated this way at school... 00:05:26.523 --> 00:05:29.469 I'd be in that principal's office so fast it’d make your head spin. 00:05:29.902 --> 00:05:31.473 So, what are you saying? 00:05:31.574 --> 00:05:34.004 I'm saying what we're doing isn't any different. 00:05:34.113 --> 00:05:35.668 Aaron's done a good job. 00:05:35.824 --> 00:05:38.004 He hasn't gone bad mouthing us behind our backs. 00:05:38.015 --> 00:05:39.894 He's been up front about how he feels. 00:05:39.905 --> 00:05:41.253 That's worth something, isn’t it? 00:05:41.389 --> 00:05:43.159 So, what do you want us to do? 00:05:44.144 --> 00:05:46.066 Well, for starters... 00:05:46.535 --> 00:05:48.099 We could apologize. 00:05:48.820 --> 00:05:50.601 And stop doing this type of thing. 00:05:50.612 --> 00:05:52.732 Not just to Aaron - with all new guys. 00:05:53.055 --> 00:05:55.031 Oh, give me a friggin break. 00:05:55.387 --> 00:05:58.488 Look, kid. If you don't like it, I'm sorry about that. 00:05:58.535 --> 00:06:02.644 But life ain't fair sometimes... so just deal with it. 00:06:04.540 --> 00:06:05.821 Look... 00:06:06.641 --> 00:06:10.242 Greg’s a bit of a tough guy, but he'll come around, eventually. 00:06:10.509 --> 00:06:12.305 Yeah, we'll see... 00:06:12.618 --> 00:06:14.896 That was a tough couple of months, you know... 00:06:14.907 --> 00:06:17.110 Some of the guys weren't too happy with me. 00:06:17.121 --> 00:06:19.755 But... you know... it was worth it. 00:06:19.887 --> 00:06:21.301 Aaron's good and 00:06:21.528 --> 00:06:23.903 I would have hated to lose him because of a few pranks. 00:06:24.020 --> 00:06:26.149 And I sure didn't want us to get in trouble, either. 00:06:26.160 --> 00:06:28.739 Because that could have been bad for everybody. 00:06:35.217 --> 00:06:39.755 Creating a respectful and harassment free workplace isn't something that just happens. 00:06:39.780 --> 00:06:40.906 It takes work. 00:06:41.599 --> 00:06:45.851 It takes knowing where the lines are and learning how to recognize and respond 00:06:45.876 --> 00:06:50.387 to unprofessional, prohibited and illegal behavior the right way. 00:06:51.105 --> 00:06:54.840 The right way can mean letting someone know what's going on and getting help. 00:06:55.124 --> 00:06:58.307 And sometimes, if we feel safe and comfortable, 00:06:58.332 --> 00:07:02.931 it can mean stepping in to resolve things ourselves, before they get worse. 00:07:03.059 --> 00:07:05.983 We need to make time to discuss a situation. 00:07:06.008 --> 00:07:07.925 We have to explore differences, 00:07:07.949 --> 00:07:11.257 so we understand the situation before we act. 00:07:11.643 --> 00:07:14.948 We also need to encourage and maintain respect. 00:07:14.973 --> 00:07:18.014 And we have to take personal responsibility to see that, 00:07:18.039 --> 00:07:22.019 if behavior needs to change - including our own - it does. 00:07:22.147 --> 00:07:25.446 So, if you're faced with a situation that could get out of hand 00:07:25.471 --> 00:07:29.391 and cause everyone a lot of problems, don't let it slide. 00:07:29.618 --> 00:07:32.172 Help keep things on the right side of the line 00:07:32.388 --> 00:07:35.424 and let people know it’s time to M.E.E.T.