WEBVTT 00:00:05.924 --> 00:00:08.176 No. no. no. Listen to me. 00:00:08.664 --> 00:00:11.203 This is exactly the way it needs to happen. 00:00:13.399 --> 00:00:17.173 Kendra, I've been around a long time. How old are you, anyway? 00:00:18.394 --> 00:00:19.426 Girl, 00:00:20.089 --> 00:00:21.264 you don't have a clue. 00:00:21.275 --> 00:00:24.002 You must have been in kindergarten when I started working here. 00:00:24.119 --> 00:00:26.528 No wonder you don't understand how we do things here. 00:00:28.316 --> 00:00:29.378 Ben, 00:00:29.945 --> 00:00:32.268 Ben, I... I... want to talk to you about what I just heard. 00:00:33.171 --> 00:00:35.564 You been listening in on my conversations again, Megan? 00:00:35.606 --> 00:00:38.890 I'm like six feet away from you, so yeah, yeah... I heard you. 00:00:38.972 --> 00:00:40.550 Okay, let me have it! 00:00:40.638 --> 00:00:43.408 Ben is a great guy but... 00:00:43.731 --> 00:00:45.242 he can be clueless. 00:00:45.496 --> 00:00:48.179 He's acting as if Kendra is a child. 00:00:48.508 --> 00:00:51.599 Just because she's younger and.. and hasn’t been here very long, 00:00:51.610 --> 00:00:54.898 doesn't mean she doesn't have a valuable contribution to make. 00:00:55.216 --> 00:00:58.064 Between being young, female and Black, 00:00:58.640 --> 00:01:01.749 I see her getting ignored and dismissed a lot, 00:01:01.978 --> 00:01:03.657 and not just by Ben. 00:01:04.793 --> 00:01:07.649 When you called Kendra a young girl... 00:01:07.660 --> 00:01:10.277 that felt really disrespectful to me. 00:01:11.231 --> 00:01:11.989 Well... 00:01:12.036 --> 00:01:13.388 she's young, 00:01:14.010 --> 00:01:15.424 and she's a girl. 00:01:16.128 --> 00:01:17.151 So... what's your point. 00:01:17.191 --> 00:01:21.134 So, does that make you an old boy? 00:01:25.954 --> 00:01:26.895 Listen here Megan... 00:01:26.943 --> 00:01:32.078 Ben, Ben... the point is, that this company doesn't hire girls, 00:01:32.089 --> 00:01:33.804 it hires women. 00:01:34.126 --> 00:01:38.156 And... you made it sound that if someone is young, they have nothing to offer. 00:01:38.182 --> 00:01:41.583 Which can shut them down and shut them out. 00:01:41.762 --> 00:01:43.370 Oh.. oh... hold on! 00:01:43.411 --> 00:01:46.232 That's not what I meant and I'm sure she didn't take it that way. 00:01:46.361 --> 00:01:48.068 But how can you be sure? 00:01:48.286 --> 00:01:50.286 At first, I didn't like what Megan was saying... 00:01:51.188 --> 00:01:53.782 because really... Kendra and I are both Black. 00:01:54.506 --> 00:01:58.101 But I realize that doesn't keep me from having gender and age biases 00:01:58.112 --> 00:02:00.505 that showed up when I thought of her as a young girl. 00:02:02.383 --> 00:02:04.779 You know, when Megan called me an Old Boy, 00:02:05.714 --> 00:02:09.682 that reminded me that there was a time when I was growing up... 00:02:10.796 --> 00:02:13.686 that Black men, no matter how old they got, 00:02:13.696 --> 00:02:15.790 were still called boys... 00:02:16.246 --> 00:02:18.030 which was very disrespectful. 00:02:19.295 --> 00:02:20.727 I see your point. 00:02:22.314 --> 00:02:23.814 I think I owe Kendra an apology. 00:02:23.914 --> 00:02:25.005 I think you do. 00:02:25.431 --> 00:02:27.690 And, when I get an apology, 00:02:27.701 --> 00:02:30.618 I like to know that the person understands the problem 00:02:30.629 --> 00:02:32.007 and the impact 00:02:32.202 --> 00:02:35.280 AND feels true regret for what happened... 00:02:35.291 --> 00:02:37.291 and can assure me that it won't happen again. 00:02:40.445 --> 00:02:42.457 You know, you're pretty smart for being so... yoouu... 00:02:44.947 --> 00:02:45.998 Well... you're right. 00:02:47.236 --> 00:02:49.236 You've really given me some good advice.